AAA – Not for Car Repair

AAA, A3, Mizzou’s Asian American Association is a club organized to promote Asian-American awareness and break down stereotypes via social networking among students.

Sounds great, right? But how do they do this — exactly. At one of their bimonthly general body meetings this week, students gathered to go over some logistical information over social events they’d been planning for the coming month. The topics weren’t, necessarily, hard-hitting toward their bigger mission: a disco-themed roller skating night, a bowling event — voting on the color for the new AAA sweatpants. But, they told me, an Asian-interest topic is always discussed at the end of every meeting. It’s incorporated. It’s a staple for the gatherings. Why? Because this is just one way they fulfill their mission. They not only plan out-reaching events on campus, but consistently work to break down stereotypes and understand the similarities and differences within the group.

Today’s topic: The Tiger Mom

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Ironically, in an AA-style setup, the room of 20 or more students circled their chairs to create an atmosphere perfect for open-hearted discussion. The Tiger Mom, as defined in different ways by a few students – is the parenting method of one Chinese mother who wrote a book that got the nation talking. Her message, however, also created a stereotype for Asian culture parenting in America. AAA members spent the rest of the meeting (30+ minutes) sharing stories about their experiences growing up with strict rules and punishments from their parents. They laughed, joked around, yet emphathised with each other. Not everyone’s stories matched up. Some parents were ideal; Some were terrifying; Some spanked; Some scolded; Some even had their kids doing handstands in the middle of a room or holding bags of fruit out to their sides for hours.

Moral of the story and one overarching connection: Strict Asian parents have their rules and expectations out of their love for their children. It’s the conclusion the group made and one that speaks volumes for Asian-Americans in general.

Proud to be Asian On Campus – Alpha Phi Gamma

These are not your typical sorority girls. Sure, they joined for similar reasons. They were looking for a sisterhood, for girls who could get along with and had a lot in common. They still want to have a good time and make lasting memories on campus, taking pictures in their greek letters, talking about boys, crying about boys, always confiding in each other. But they’re also sisters in a cause.

Alpha Phi Gamma, or A Phi G is the first and only Asian-interest sorority on campus. I sat down with Vinita and Vien, two of the eight active members this semester. One of their main goals is to create a voice for Asian and Asian-American women at Mizzou, something Vien says is an “ongoing process.”

“As a smaller sorority, people take us for granted, so we get ourselves out there,” Vien said, the current A Phi G president. 

Their events include fundraising for their philanthropy, the National Coalition of Domestic Violence, and participating in the many events put on by fellow minority organizations throughout the school year.

Vinita, the New Member Chairman, says creating a voice for domestic abuse victims is part of their job to raise awareness.

“Asian women need a stronger voice. As a part of A Phi G, we need to cultivate awareness. Working with the National Coalition of Domestic Violence is just one way we can do that in college. Especially being in a sorority — and being women — we are giving these women a voice,” Vinita said.

Altogether, these sisters band together under three stereotypes and the mission to fight against them. In today’s society, they have three strikes against them already: 1) They are Asian or Asian-American 2) They are women 3) They are Greeks. All three, regardless of what excuses are made to defend them, have negative connotations. This is why Vinita says this is what A Phi G stands for: breaking stereotypes and showing that there’s more to Greek-Life.

For more information, visit the Alpha Phi Gamma – Mizzou website or contact Vien at bizulu.35@gmail.com

Word of the Week x 27

In the spirit of Valentine’s day, how do you say “I love you” in the 27 languages of the Asian countries? (The languages included are the most commonly spoken dialects of each country.)

1) Bangladesh = Bengali = “Ami tomake bhalobashi”
2) Bhutan = Dzongkha = “nga gi che lu ga”
3) Brunei = Melayu = “saya sayang awak”
4) Cambodia = Cambodian = “bong sra-lun oun na”
5) China = Mandarine = “wo ai ni”
6) India = Hindi = “Mãĩ tumse pyār kartā hū̃”
7) Indonesia = Indonesian = “aku cinta kamu”
8 ) Japan = Japanese = “aishite imasu”
9) Kazakhstan = Kazakh = “Men seny jaksy kuremyn”
10) North Korea = “Tangsinul sarang ha yo”
11) South Korea = “Tangsinul sarang ha yo”
12) Kyrgyzstan = Kyrgyz = “Men seni syuem”
13) Laos = Lao = “Khoi huk chau”
14) Malaysia = Malaysian = “Saya cintamu”
15) Maldives = Maldives = “Aharen Kalaa Dhekeh Loabivey”
16) Mongolia = Khalka = “Bi chamd khairtai”
17) Myanmar = Burma = “Nga nint ko chit dae”
18) Nepal = Nepali = “Ma timlai maya/prem garchu”
19) Philippines = Tagalog = “Mahal kita”
20) Singapore = Mandarian = “Wo ai ni”
21) Sri Lanka = Sinhala = “mama oyata adarei”
22) Taiwan = Mandarian = “Wo ai ni”
23) Tajikistan = Tajik = “Yzym ty chevge”
24) Thailand = Thai = “Phom Rak Khun”
25) Turkmenistan = Turkmen = “seni söýärin”
26) Uzbekistan = Uzbek = “Men seni sevaman”
27) Vietnam = Vietnamese = “Anh ye^u em”

Blah Blah Blog – Rants of Asian-Interest Bloggers

Gilmore Girls characters, from left to right, Lane Kim, Rory Gilmore and Mrs. Kim.

The Asian parent: Unemotional, stern, strict and never wanting anything but the best from a child. Take The Gilmore Girls TV sitcom for example. Mrs. Kim was a caring, yet cold mother to her daughter Lane, imposing upon her the highest quality of discipline and appropriate behavior enforced by religion. Lane, however grew up ingeniously hiding her secret love of underground music — under the floorboards of her room — achieving academic successes, but never seemingly reaching the expectations of Mrs. Kim. It’s that parental pressure that, stereotypically, most Asian parents inherently master. They set the bar high and when it seems just within reach, the bar is nudged up another ten feet.

Such notoriety of Asian parents has inspired UCLA professor Mitchell Chang to submit his op-ed to the UCLA Today faculty publication, concerned that this kind of parental push diminishes self initiative in Asian or Asian-American youth. Chang focused much of his write-up over the suggestions made by Yale University professor Amy Chua who published an essay in The Wall Street Journal, “Why Chinese Mothers are Superior,” and even a book, Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother. Chang explained Chua’s essay…

“Chua’s essay is considered controversial largely because it stresses a rigid parenting style based on tough love — the “Tiger Mother” — that goes against what she considers more typical “Western” styles that emphasize self-esteem and self-discovery. Parenting strategies aside, what has been overlooked is how this essay unintentionally undermines Asian American college applicants by perpetuating an erroneous stereotype.”

Essentially, Chang believes the stereotype of Asian parent tough love can and has hindered the chances of college acceptance for Asian and Asian-American applicants. Because high expectations and parental pressure are directly associated to Asian culture, generalizations are made that the kids, when out on their own at college, cannot be self-starters without the consistent push from a superior. Chua’s primary ideal actually set such style of parenting on a pedestal, tagging it with the “Tiger Mother” label. Such a fierce characterization, however sent wrinkles to Chang’s forehead. He said the Tiger Mother “can advance a one-dimensional view of Asian Americans that minimizes their achievements and overlooks their diversity.”

Another Wall Street Journal blogger, Ilyon Woo, wrote to break this characterization. “An Asian Father’s Gift: Permission to Fail” broke the “Tiger Mother” stereotype with Woo’s personal account of discovering success — and failure — with the life lessons of her parents. She explained both her mom and dad were extremely successful in all senses of the term, wealth, occupation and family, but they raised their daughter to understand that striving for the best and coming up short is not the end of the world. This realization helped her to stop obsessing on perfectionism, allowing her to find success with unstrained care. Sure, this is just one account, but it shows that the Tiger Mother cannot be generalized.

These blogs and insight lay out that, like any stereotypes, characteristics are far too often generalized for the Asian, Asian-American cultures. Each person and family is infinitely different from the next. But, when do you draw the line when making generalizations? Is the Tiger Mother OK to accept due to Asian culture? Will Asian and Asian-American college applicants continue to be discriminated? What do you say?